New specs

Two months ago I finally went to the eye doctor and got new glasses. It had been seven or eight years, or longer, since I’d had a new pair. My prescription hadn’t changed dramatically in all that time, but I had long noticed blurriness at the edges of my vision, near and far, and lately it had started to bother me.

When I got checked out, I found that I was in an in-between place as far as my vision was concerned. As I had noticed before the machines confirmed it, I needed some help at both ends of the spectrum: reading and stargazing. To really sharpen both ends, however, would require bifocals, and getting bifocals would entail a significant sacrifice at the mid-range, where I actually do most of my seeing: from computer work to driving.

I could opt for trifocals, the optometrist told me, but even he didn’t seem too keen on that idea. The amount of lens area you have for each range is very narrow, he admitted, and that can be hard to get used to.

After some futzing around, I let him talk me into a compromise. I would get basically the same prescription—“We’ll sharpen it up a little,” he said helpfully—in a different frame. I guess the frame was what I wanted all along.

It’s surprising how quickly a pair of frames can look out-of-date after eight or ten years of seeming fine. I was wearing a gold-rimmed frame with full-size rounded lenses, and had been perfectly content with that, but as soon as I had given myself the go-ahead to start pulling new frames off the shelf and trying them on, the old glasses became anathema. How old and fusty they made me look! How had I stood them so long?

I tried on at least 20 pairs, and quickly narrowed down to five, all similar in style, and very different, updated, from what I’d had. Finally, with Lori’s help, I cut it down to two variants of the exact same style: smallish rectangular lenses with top-only frames. One frame was black, the other gun-metal gray.

The black were stylish. I actually thought they made me look kind of cool. Lori seconded the notion. The gray were, well, gray. They were perfectly serviceable, neat, up-to-date, but they didn’t flatter me as much. They didn’t make me look dashing. They did come, however, with a pair of magnetic clip-on sunglasses that were exceedingly handy. The cool pair offered no such option.

I’m ashamed of how much I agonized over the final decision. It was a clear-cut choice between practicality and cool. I tried as hard as I could to manuever myself into opting for cool, and then I wrestled myself out of it. I made and remade the decision a dozen times, wasting an awful lot of energy. In the end, with my family waiting and he store closing, I went for the safe choice—and as soon as the ink was dry on my signature I was kicking myself. How typical of me! I sneered. What a dull gray little man I am, never having the courage to follow my heart’s desire! It was only the saleswoman’s repeated assurances that I had a full 60 days to change my mind that enabled me to leave the store at all. I was miserable for a week.

Now, with the 60-day deadline just passed, I am reasonably content that I made the right choice after all. The gun-metal frames seem to suit me just fine, and I find myself snapping on the sunglasses all the time. Every time I do I’m glad I didn’t opt for the Maserati. (But then I usually think, these sunglasses don’t really help that much.)

Here’s the kicker: Frames aside, I’m still frustrated with my vision. From about two feet to six feet I’m all right. Closer, I just take my glasses off. But farther than six or seven feet I’m squinting as miserably as before.

So what the hell does all this mean? What have I learned?

That I am still a slave to vanity, for one thing. Despite wanting, or professing to want, the opposite, I am as much as ever prone to get caught up and make a foolish decision based on appearances. My prayers for release from this damnable condition are conducted with fingers crossed behind my back.

This half-heartedness is the other thorn that tears me. Even now, when the tide of second-guessing has gone out, I find myself unable to let go, to be completely sure that I made the right choice. What a continuing torment it is to me, what a wasteful drain, to never to be able to be whole-hearted! And to waste such energy on something so trivial! To always worry, in matters great and maddeningly small, about whether I’ve done the right thing!